Thoughts don’t have to define reality. Thoughts arise spontaneously. So for me that’s not the point. We are more than our thoughts. It’s about what we pay attention to over what we’re controlling. Meditation as I practice it is about choosing to pay attention to the breath, by bringing the attention back to the breath when the mind wanders. When the mind wanders we gain a measure of insight into our attachments. By bringing the mind back we gain detachment. Attachments are like tentacles of consciousness. By not paying attention they wither and die. But in meditation and life we’re treating thoughts, as they are right here, as impermanent. Interestingly, there’s a gap of about 1/2 second or so it seems, depending on meditation practice, that occurs between the thought and the action. Beyond thinking there is your true nature.